I have really come to enjoy posting bits and pieces from our lives for Montessori Monday, but as I put together my thoughts on The Schooling Dilemma, I realized I may be painting a bit of a confusing picture.
I explained that I admire, fully support, and am quite frankly in awe of parents who choose to homeschool their children using the Montessori method. I support homeschooling, I am a Montessorian to the core, and I strive to implement Montessori philosophy in my home, and in my interactions with all children. While I suspect I will always be guided by Montessori philosophy, I will never homeschool my children using the Montessori method. That is unless I decide to open a school in my home that includes children unrelated to me. We shall see 1 Continue reading
- Is this the place where I should admit to hoarding small shelves, tables, chairs, and the like, just in case I should find myself designing a home-based Montessori environment? ↩
|I am not this fancy!
Image Credit: Becky Wetherington on Flickr.
When I wrote about how we keep a balance with the ol’ budget around here, I mentioned that there are a whole lot of cleaning and toiletry products that I no longer buy. Several readers inquired about our alternatives, so I promised to write up a post detailing them. I also mentioned that those of you who were impressed probably shouldn’t be. I worry that I have you all picturing me in the kitchen pouring luxurious bars of soap in various shapes and scents and putting pretty labels on bottles of homemade moisturizer. It’s definitely not like that, and if I made myself out to be some guru that was not my intent. Anyhow, I’ll shush now and get on with it.
First, a rundown of the ingredients I use for personal care and household cleaning, since most of them will appear more than once. In bold are the items I really feel that I need. The rest I could live without, but they add a little something and I had them on hand, so I use them. If you’re familiar with this sort of stuff already, you may want to skip to the next section.
- Castile Soap: Traditionally, the name Castile soap refers to a product made from olive oil in the Castile region of Spain. These days, however, it refers to any soap whose base is purely from vegetable oils rather than animal tallow. These soaps are pure and simple, without harsh detergents, animal based ingredients, and the like. Popular brands include Dr. Bronner’s and Dr. Woods. These soaps can be found in health food stores, but are becoming more readily available elsewhere. We typically use Dr. Bronner’s. I like to buy the Baby Mild variety since it contains no essential oils, but I can divvy it up and add my own depending on what I’m in the mood for.
- Vinegar: Vinegar requires little explanation, as I’m sure it is not a foreign product to any of you. I tend to use white vinegar most often, as it is inexpensive and I can purchase it in much larger quantities and a recyclable container. Another popular option, especially for hair rinses, however, is Apple Cider Vinegar. I use Bragg’s ACV here and there as well.
- Baking Soda: This also needs little explanation, but I suppose I’ll mention that in many countries it is referred to as Sodium Bicarbonate. It’s also important to note that due to the way they are processed, many popular brands contain aluminum, so you may wish to look for one that does not. I use Bob’s Red Mill, which is labeled aluminum free.
- Extra Virgin Coconut Oil: Oil from coconuts also needs little explanation. When cold, the oil is solid, but slight warming causes it to liquefy. You can buy any old type, but the unrefined (virgin) oil retains all of its beneficial properties, while the refining process destroys some. One difference that you will notice, however, is that unrefined oil smells strongly of coconuts whereas the refined oil is virtually odorless, so if you don’t enjoy the smell you can certainly purchase the refined oil. Just be aware of the difference. The brand I purchase is called Spectrum, but that’s just because it’s the only brand my local stores carry.
- Essential Oils: Essential oils are used for fragrance as well as for certain therapeutic or medicinal properties. They are extracted, usually by distillation, from various plants. They differ from fragrance oils in that they are derived from plants themselves and do not contain synthetic fragrances, which can have negative effects on human health. Most essential oils are not to be used undiluted on the skin, but are perfectly safe when used with a “carrier” oil like olive or coconut. I use only a few essential oils, and really I could live without them, but they add a nice touch and I do enjoy them. If you’re new to the world of EOs, you may enjoy Dionna’s article on Essential Oil Remedies for Children over at the Natural Parents Network.
- Grapefruit Seed Extract: GSE is, in fact, made from grapefruit and is useful as a natural preservative as well as an antimicrobial agent. I took it, diluted in water, when I had Mastitis and avoided a trip to the doctor, but I also use it in some household products. It is available in health food stores.
- Stevia: Made from a plant of the same name, Stevia is found in powdered and liquid forms and used as a sweetener. I use it in one product only, and that’s Annabelle’s toothpaste. You can find it in health food stores. It is becoming rather controversial, however, especially since becoming available as an ultra-processed white powder under the name “Truvia.” Definitely do your research and decide how you feel about using it. Certainly the less processed the better – if you can grow it yourself or get your hands on the actual leaves, that’s fantastic. If you buy it in powdered form, it should be green. Another popular alternative is Xylitol, but it’s just as controversial and personally I don’t wish to use it. Crunchy Betty has a great article on the topic -> Xylitol: Should We Stop Calling it Natural?
- Xanthan Gum: This is another controversial product, and unless you have it on hand, you probably have no reason to buy it. It is a fermented corn sugar derived from a particular bacteria (Xanthomonas campestris). It is used in food products, especially gluten free specialty foods, and cosmetics. Most of the issues with it are based on the fact that it’s corn-derived and therefore usually GMO, but you’ll certainly uncover quite a bit of information if you look around. I won’t use it for food any longer, but in cosmetics it’s nice because it keeps things that would otherwise separate, mixed.
I’m the type of gal who likes to keep things as simple as possible, so I try to find solutions for personal care products that are not only chemical-free, but that don’t require any difficult to find ingredients. I don’t really follow recipes, as that requires extra time and, you know, writing stuff down. I wing it. You can, too. I trust you on this.
- Shampoo: I tried going no ‘poo for some months, and after the initial transition it worked great. Eventually, however, I started to feel like I had some residue that just plain never went away completely, so I jumped ship. I think this has a lot to do with the extremely harsh water we have here. In any case, I started using a small amount of liquid castile soap when I need a good wash, and I add a bit of lavender essential oil when I want my hair to smell pretty. I do the same for Annabelle, though she needs a good wash far less often than I.
- Conditioner: I have stuck with the vinegar rinse. It’s inexpensive, and it works. I keep a spray bottle in my shower that contains half vinegar and half water and I use this to spray my hair. This method means I’m much less likely to get vinegar in my eyes, which stings. A lot. I follow each wash with a vinegar rinse, but even when I don’t wash my hair with soap, I do a hot water and vinegar rinse.
For Annabelle, I spray vinegar only on the curly back of her hair, taking care that I don’t accidentally get any in her eyes.
- Styling: I do have a gel (Alba Botanica) and a hairspray (Aubrey Organics)1 that I use when I really want to get fancy, but for the most part all I do is use a small amount of coconut oil on my ends and as far up my hair as seems to need moisturizer. Just a touch adds moisture and shine without making the hair look oily.
Where I have really gotten frustrated is with Annabelle’s super curly hair that becomes a giant tangle in the back the moment it makes contact with anything. For awhile, I was just using coconut oil and brushing it out, but coconut oil is expensive, and when you use enough to help detangle it also makes the hair greasy. I have come up with (gasp!) an actual recipe for a detangling spray that I now use for her. It also helps tame flyaways for me. Here it is:
- 2 Tbsp Coconut Oil
- 1/4 tsp Xanthan Gum
- 1 cup water
I use a funnel to pour the coconut oil into a spray bottle, then add the xanthan gum and mix. Finally, I add the water and the lid, and shake vigorously. The xanthan gum keeps the oil and water from separating and also adds a bit of thickness to the mixture. You can also add a drop or two of essential oil for fragrance. This does not work as beautifully as the “No More Tangles” I remember as a kid, but it does make it easier to comb Annabelle’s curls out and it helps them keep their shape. If you use conditioner, I also hear good things about diluting a bit in water and simply using that.
- Face: I wash with castile soap and use coconut oil as a moisturizer. Coconut oil also works wonderfully to remove makeup from under the eyes, and it has a natural SPF so it provides a bit of protection from the sun as well.
I do wear makeup, most of which I order online from Coastal Classic Creations, whose products are about as pure as they come. They even use BPA free containers. I am not a fan of their mascara, however, so I use ZuZu Luxe, which you can buy at Whole Foods if you have such a thing near you, and probably some other health food stores as well.
- Teeth: This is where you’re going to think I’m really crazy. I researched toothpaste recipes until I wanted to scream, and there was virtually nothing that some sources didn’t advise against. Baking soda is a popular choice, but some say it is too abrasive and damages your enamel. Glycerine is commonly used, but some sources say it coats the teeth and actually does more harm than good. I couldn’t find anything I felt completely and totally comfortable with, so finally I threw up my hands and started using Peppermint Dr. Bronner’s, or Dr. Bronner’s Baby Mild with Peppermint Essential Oil added. It lathers beautifully, tastes minty fresh, and leaves my teeth feeling cleaner than ever, so I think I’ll stick with it unless my next visit to the dentist gives me a reason to do otherwise.
I have tried it with Annabelle and she scrunches up her face and declares the stuff, “hot!” I made a different concoction for her using about two tablespoons of coconut oil to one tsp Dr. Bronner’s and several drops of Stevia to make it pleasant to the taste. The soap is what actually does the cleaning – the rest just makes it palatable.
I have gone back and forth on rinses, and I’ll report back when I find something I want to stick with. For now, I’m finishing off a bottle of Tom’s while I decide what to do next.
- Body: I wash myself and Annabelle with castile soap. Easy, peasy. Going soap free seems to be increasingly popular. I’m not ready. As a moisturizer, I use coconut oil. Olive oil is wonderful, too, but the smell is too much for me. Coconut oil works fine as a deodorant if I’m not doing anything terribly active, but when I need something heavier duty, I use Crystal deodorant spray.
|Yes, I grabbed the camera before helping.
You may now question what kind of
mother I am anyway.
- Dishes and Laundry
There are many wonderful recipes out there for homemade dish and laundry soaps, but most call for ingredients that are not easy to come by here. For now, I am happy using products that I can buy locally. I would like to experiment with making my own when we move, but I’ll take it slowly. My favorite brand for dish and laundry soaps is Biokleen. When I can’t find it, I go for other relatively safe brands. My current hand dish washing soap is Meyer’s Clean Day. I’m definitely not the super green poster child in this department, but I’m working on it.
I do use a lot of vinegar, both as a rinse agent in the dishwasher and as a fabric softener. I was skeptical about using it for these purposes, but the results are undeniable. Our harsh water used to leave a thick white coating on dishes, but when I add a cup of vinegar to the wash, everything comes our sparkly clean.
- Floors and Surfaces
My basic “all-purpose cleaner” is a small amount of castile soap and a couple of drops of essential oil for fragrance diluted in a spray bottle with water. This works beautifully on our counters and tile floors as well as on bathroom surfaces. I always keep a spray bottle of vinegar on hand as well, and use that to sanitize counter tops and kill bacteria in other areas – especially the bathroom.
For wood, I am still trying recipes and working to find something I love. I was using a combination of olive oil and lemon juice, but in the end I decided this was leaving a build-up on my wood. For now, I use warm, soapy water.
Vinegar works wonderfully. In the old days, we used it with newspaper, but I have found that a cotton cleaning cloth actually works wonderfully. For a long time this was the one purpose I reserved paper towels for. Boy did I feel silly when I saw how well a regular old, washable cloth works!
- Fruit and Veggie Wash
I wish I could remember where I found recipes for fruit and veggie washes, but that’s tricky since I don’t follow any one exactly anyway. I suggest that you find an exact recipe that you like and trust, but if you want to know what I use, it’s a combination of grapefruit seed extract, vinegar, water, and a bit of baking soda. It’s not very scientific, and I may actually measure one of these days.
Our crazy harsh water tends to leave a mineral buildup on toilet bowls. To combat this and generally clean, I sprinkle baking soda on the dry part of the bowl (a repurposed spice jar with a shaker top works wonderfully for this) and then gently spray it with vinegar. I leave this to sit for a few minutes and then scrub all of the residue away.
- ScouringAnnabelle has free access to her art materials and this sometimes leads to a bit of exploratory drawing. Fortunately, her pencils and crayons wipe off most surfaces easily, but for some this is not the case. For tough jobs, I create a paste with baking soda and a very small amount of water. I use a soft cloth or simply my fingertip to scrub crayon, pencil, and other types of marks away. Baking soda is quite abrasive, however, so test it on a small part of your surfaces before going all out.
And that’s that. Overall, my goals are to minimize our environmental impact and keep toxins out of our home. Many times, however, I have been thankful that we use the types of products that we do because they give me peace of mind around our busy toddler. When Annabelle licks the tabletop or rubs her hand in the table I have just sprayed, I can stay calm, knowing that nothing in these products will harm her.
Do you have any recipes or ideas for alternatives to homemade household or personal care products? Could you ever go soap free? Would you brush your teeth with soap? What’s the “line” for you? I would love to hear your thoughts on toxin-free products for the home and body.
1 I have not thoroughly researched either and there are probably better/more “green” brands. They’re just what my local store carries.↩
An important part of the curriculum in any Montessori classroom is the “exercises of practical life.” Most of the activities found in the Practical Life area of Montessori environments fit into one of three categories: Care of Self, Care of the Environment, or Grace and Courtesy. As you might have guessed, care of self involves things like learning to dress and groom oneself. Care of the Environment includes things like dusting, sweeping, table washing and care of plants; and Grace and Courtesy focuses on basic manners and general kindness toward others.
My background in Montessori has a great deal of influence on the way I have set up our home. I do not, however, design specific practical life exercises. Why? Because I believe that in a home where children are respected and given freedom, and where parents invite children to be a part of all aspects of everyday family life, both inside the house and in the community, all of the aims of the practical life area are easily achieved.
When it comes to arranging an environment that is practical and functional for the developing child, the opportunities are limitless. The following is a basic list of ways that we have arranged our home environment to allow for learning through ‘practical life.’
Care of Self:
- Stools, toilet seat reducers, and the like allow for independence in things like toileting and handwashing.
- A toddler accessible closet makes it easy for the child to choose his or her own clothing, and a natural extension of this is practice in dressing oneself.
- Access to basic items needed for grooming, such as a comb, a toothbrush, and washcloths, allows for independence in these areas of self-care as well.
- Access to snack items and drinking water help children to regulate and tend to their own feelings of hunger and thirst.
- Serving meals family style and allowing children to serve their own food and pour their own beverages not only fosters independence in this area, but also helps develop fine motor skills.
- Choosing developmentally appropriate, easy to put on and take off shoes and clothing helps foster independence and keep frustration to a minimum.
- A child-sized broom, dustpan, and mop as well cleaning towels and a child-friendly all purpose cleaner make it easy to tidy up after oneself.
- Modeling is key. Maintaining a sense of order helps the child to develop the same, and they learn by watching to treat belongs with gentleness and care, and to put things back when they are finished using them.
- Having plants and pets around and involving children in their care is another great opportunity for teaching care of the environment.
Grace and Courtesy
- Here, modeling is virtually all that is needed. In my opinion, it simply is not developmentally appropriate to expect a toddler to consistently ask for things by saying please and respond to having needs met with a thank you, but over time children will develop these habits if they have seen them exhibited on a regular basis.
- Bodily autonomy and modeling are important as well. By respecting the child and their right to make decisions about their person: what to wear, when to offer a hug, etc., we are teaching the importance of this type of courtesy and extending it to others is only natural.
|A step stool and a seat reducer make independent toileting possible. A basket of cloths for wiping and a pail to put them in also help to facilitate self-care in this area.|
|Chatting with the ladies at the next table over in a cafe, Annabelle practices Grace and Courtesy.|
|The Learning Tower and a child-sized rolling pin allow Annabelle to participate in food preparation.|
When I first walked you through Annabelle’s nursery, she was three months old and there was nothing Montessori about her closet. We’re renters, and had plans to move out of our current house a year later, before Annabelle would really develop any interest in getting her own clothes out or dressing herself. So, I decided not to make any major modifications to the closet itself. Now she has nearly reached the ripe old age of seventeen months and we’re still here which is a topic for another post, but means that it’s time to make some changes. This week, I have finally Montessori-ized her closet and I thought I’d share with you how it was done.
The closet itself has two sides with sliding doors, and one side is dedicated to storage. The other side has a rod for hanging clothes, but it is at adult height, of course. In order to make it toddler-accessible, I purchased a tension rod – the type designed to serve as a curtain rod in your shower – and placed it at Annabelle height, toward the front of the closet for easy access. It is adjustable and doesn’t require any hardware, so I haven’t made any lasting changes to the house that I’ll need to undo before we leave, and it only cost about ten dollars. Easy!
Because Annabelle’s closet is so narrow, the stall sized shower rod worked perfectly, but there are longer rods, made for full size showers, that would work for a larger closet. If you have the type of closet that extends for the entire length of a wall, however, you may have to get creative. One idea would be to place a heavy piece of furniture, say a bookshelf or cabinet, inside the closet and set up a tension rod between one closet wall and the edge of the furniture.
Annabelle was in the room when I set everything up, so she saw me hanging the clothes and immediately came over to try her hand. She hung one thing and signed “more” until I handed her something else. This continued until all of the clothes were put away. She loved it! I made sure to put only clothes that are suitable for everyday wear so that when we’re getting ready to go someplace and Annabelle chooses an outfit, I’ll never be tempted to veto her choice, because it will always be appropriate.
I placed baskets in the bottom of the closet for items that don’t go on hangers. On the far left are waterproof trainers for when we’re going out, then there is underwear for when we’re home (side note: I have discovered that bloomers are perfect infant/toddler underwear. Why didn’t I think of this sooner!?), then there are pants, and finally socks. In our house, shoes are near the front door, so they didn’t require any consideration here.
The only thing I’m trying to figure out now is how to utilize the storage space that is above toddler height. Good spots for storage and organization are hard to come by in this house, so I hate to see any closet space going to waste! If you have any ideas, let me know!
I have been busy transitioning just about every area of the house to accommodate Annabelle’s ever developing independence, so I should have a lot to share with you in the near future. I was caught a bit off guard, since I didn’t expect to be here in this stage of toddler-hood, but I have really enjoyed the challenge of finding ways to adjust and organize things to suit Annabelle’s changing needs.
Do you have any ideas or suggestions for creating a closet or other dressing space for a toddler or young child? How have you made changes to your living space to accommodate your children at various stages? I would love to hear from you!
Welcome to the First Annual Freedom of Cloth Carnival
This post was written for inclusion in the Freedom of Cloth Carnival hosted at Natural Parents Network by Melissa of The New Mommy Files and Shannon of The Artful Mama. This year’s carnival will run from Sunday, July 3rd through Saturday, July 9th. Participants are sharing everything they know and love about cloth diapering, including how cloth has inspired them.
|Photo Credit: Ray King
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I have been on a journey to be kinder and gentler to the environment since long before my daughter was born, but her birth and the decision to cloth diaper definitely gave me the extra push I needed to take that journey more seriously. I knew from the start that I would use cloth in combination with elimination communication, but as I researched my options and learned how easy it was to use cloth, I took things a bit further.
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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants on the following themes. Articles will go live on the scheduled theme day:
- Sunday, July 3rd, 2011: Cloth Related Recipes — Writers share their best cloth-related recipes and tutorials.
- Monday, July 4th, 2011: Choosing Your Cloth Style — Today’s posts discuss parents’ individual journeys to finding the cloth diapering “style” that best suits their families.
- Tuesday, July 5th, 2011: Cloth Diapering Must Haves — Parents talk about the most important items in their diapering “stash” and why they love them.
- Wednesday, July 6th, 2011: Wordless Wednesday, Inspired by Cloth — We asked parents to share their favorite cloth-related photo with us and turned them into a fluffy Wordless Wednesday photo montage on Natural Parents Network. Link up your own Wordless Wednesday post there!
- Thursday, July 7th, 2011: Cloth Through the Stages: From Infancy to Potty Independence — Today’s participants explain how cloth diapering has served their families throughout one or more stages of their children’s lives.
- Friday, July 8th, 2011: Cloth Troubleshooting and Laundry Day — Seasoned cloth diapering parents share their best tips and tricks for handling common cloth problems and tackling the diaper laundry.
- Saturday, July 9th, 2011: Inspired by Cloth — For today’s theme, we’ve asked writers to explore the ways cloth diapering has inspired them to become “greener” overall.