What’s New Wednesday: Growing Up and Sitting Down
When Annabelle was newly born and for many months thereafter, I felt as though she fit perfectly in my arms. It was as if my body and hers were designed to fit together like puzzle pieces. Rocking her felt effortless, as even on the longest nights, my eyes would be droopy and my knees wobbly, but I could have held that bundle in my arms forever. It was just right. At the time of this writing, it’s nearly midnight and I’ve just taken my dear one back to bed after she woke to nurse. I still love holding her just as much as I always have, but she has begun to feel bulky, and downright heavy in my arms. When I placed her in bed and looked down at her just then, I must admit she looked much more little girl than baby. It seems that, despite my trepidation, she is growing up.
This week has, along those same lines, shown evidence of Annabelle’s maturity. Her hair now finally long enough, she wore pigtails for the first time; she has begun to do a lot more actual tidying up after her own meals and snacks, she climbed a slide for the first time, and she has shown her awareness of the world around her in a number of new ways. Andrew and I are constantly shooting one another a look behind her back that says: “Holy goodness, did you see what she just did!? She’s amazing!” Just as an example, one small action that elicited that look this week: Annabelle loves to drink out of the daddy’s water bottle. He is happy to share, but because it is made of stainless steel and has rather hard parts, we have insisted that she sit down while drinking from it instead of walking about with it as she prefers to do. The desire to get up and move around is too strong, however, so we have generally had to hold her as she drinks to ensure her safety. All of the sudden, she has started signing water (her own version of the ASL sign, which involves wiggling her fingers beneath her chin, Little Rascals style) whenever she sees the beloved bottle, and then sitting right down, expectantly.
|At the door, signing “outside”|
We’re slowly settling back into a routine with sleep, which I’m sure will be dashed the next time a new tooth is pushing through, or a major new skill is being acquired, but that’s okay. I’m finally beginning to feel a rhythm in our days, after the idea of such a thing had almost become a complete abstraction in my mind. I finally introduced some art supplies, and drawing has become a regular part of our days, though I have to watch quite closely for the cue that it’s time to clean up and move on – when the urge to taste a crayon comes on, it comes on strong! As for other activities, Annabelle has come to enjoy carrying around a stuffed toy, not so much as an attachment object as simply something to cuddle and kiss. She has two bears: one large, and one small, that she carries about and hands to the daddy or me, though we’re not yet sure what it is that she wants us to do with them. She has also enjoyed pulling gift bags out of the place where I keep them, or finding purses and placing objects inside, then carrying them around the house. She is always busy with something.
|The naked artist|
It has been a bit since I wrote an update on EC, as there is little to report, really. We sometimes go entire days without misses, nights are dry much more often than not, and “misses” are almost never of the solid variety. Then there are days when the girl is far too busy with other occupations to be bothered with trips to the toilet, so there are far more misses than catches. As always, the goal is communication, and at this stage I’m fine with it being on her terms, even if that means several misses a day on some days. I just have to trust that she knows she can ask me if she’d like to be taken to the toilet. I am noticing that she comes to me right away after a miss, rather than happily continuing on with wet pants as she used to do, so perhaps there has been an increase in awareness, or perhaps they are rare enough now that being wet feels out of place. Either way, I’m glad she’s letting me know. We did invest in a couple of all in one diapers for bedtime because trainers no longer do the job of holding all the liquid in when there is a nighttime miss. These have been great to have! We purchased two Grovia all in one, one size diapers and I think these were the best choice for our purposes. They have side snaps, so I can fasten them a bit more loosely than I would if I actually diapered Annabelle in the traditional sense, and they pull down easily for trips to the bathroom – just like a trainer, but absorbent enough to guard against wet sheets. If it weren’t for the impending move, I think I would remove trainers from the equation altogether and go with all underwear during the day, but I think it’s best to wait until we’re settled in our new home.
What have your children been up to this week? What was the last thing that made you think to yourself: “my child is amazing!” Do tell!